Do you feel you may have a problem with a sex or porn addiction? Here are some questions to help you sort things out:

• Do you secretly seek out anonymous sex?

• Do you think about sex or viewing adult porn much more than you used to?

• Has your adult porn or sex "problem" become worse over the past couple of years or months?

• Do you do more and more daring things to get the same sense of satisfaction you once had?

• Are you ashamed of what you've done after you've done it?

• If your friends or family found out what you are doing, would you be humiliated?

• Do you vow to quit using sex or viewing adult porn only to go back to the behavior?

• Are you spending money or time that you can't afford on your "problem"?

• Are you keeping secrets?

• Can you imagine your life without your "problem"?

If you answer yes to even one of these questions, you could benefit from therapy. Sometimes it's really hard to think that we have a problem. It's even harder to make that first call for help.

I know you're probably very successful in your every day life. Your family/friends/co-workers would never dream you were struggling with your 'problem'. That's what makes addictions so difficult to deal with. The secrecy is almost more than most people can bear.

I deal with addictions every day. There is not much that you could tell me that I haven't already heard from someone else. I approach therapy with an open mind and a sense of humor. There are no value judgements here. I know it's embarrassing to talk about these things, but it's worse when you keep it inside. Let's work together.

An addiction is a way of stepping out of your life. Learn how to step back in.